Everything you need to know about Kindred and the Lifestyle community.
Only if they're also on Kindred — and that means they're in the Lifestyle too. We offer Ghost Mode for full anonymity (you're invisible until you initiate), and Discreet Mode which blurs your photos until you approve someone. Your profile is never indexed by search engines, and we never share or sell your data.
Take a photo holding a piece of paper with "Kindred" and today's date written on it. Our team reviews it to confirm you're a real person. The verification photo is never shown publicly — it earns you a ✅ badge and significantly boosts your visibility to other members. Verified profiles get 3x more matches on average.
Block them instantly with one tap. You can also report them — our moderation team reviews reports within 24 hours. Repeat offenders are permanently banned. We also use behavioral analysis to proactively identify problematic accounts before they cause issues.
Most Lifestyle platforms use basic filters (age, location, looking for). Kindred goes deeper — our AI reads your "About Me" text to extract interests, desires, and boundaries using natural language processing. This means we can match you on compatibility, not just checkboxes. We also detect complementary pairings (e.g., a dominant couple matched with someone who prefers to follow).
It's not mind-reading — it's pattern recognition. When you write "we love spontaneous weeknight adventures and drama-free connections," our system identifies key signals: you value spontaneity, you're active, and drama-free is important to you. The more naturally you write, the better your matches will be.
Dealbreakers are absolute. If you set a hard limit, matches that conflict with it are filtered out before you ever see them. This works both ways — you won't see profiles incompatible with your boundaries, and they won't see you. No awkward conversations about non-negotiables.
Open-minded adults 18+ who are exploring or actively living the Lifestyle. Singles, couples, polycules — all orientations and configurations. Whether you're just curious or have been in the community for years, Kindred meets you where you are.
Absolutely — in fact, it's one of Kindred's strengths. Create a shared couple profile where both partners are represented. Our matching understands couple dynamics and finds connections that work for both of you, not just one partner.
Basic profiles and matching are free. Premium features (advanced AI matching, unlimited messaging, priority visibility, event access) will be available through a subscription. We believe in earning your membership — no paywalling basic safety features or the ability to see who's interested in you.
"The Lifestyle" is the community term for consensual non-monogamy, ethical open relationships, and related dynamics. It's a broad umbrella that includes many different approaches to relationships — from casual exploration to deep polyamorous connections. Kindred supports all of them.
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